Writing a birth plan forced me to learn more about the birthing process so I could give my baby a birth aligned with our family values. I knew I wouldn't be able to talk much during labor, which ended up being totally true, so my birth plan spoke for me.
Here are the guidelines that Joe and I followed:
Mother: name and phone number
Father: name and phone number
Doula: name and phone number
Point of contact for family:
Name and phone:
Estimated due date:
We want our birth to feel natural, serene, fun, and exciting. We want to trust Serenity’s intuition in every moment, and be fully in it together.
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When Della was born, all of Serenity’s attention rightfully went to the baby, and I discovered how much emotional and practical support I had grown dependent on. It’s hard to admit, but on an unconscious level I still want someone to take care of me. Now suddenly my wife has an actual child to raise, and any parental-like support I used to receive went to Della. I had to step up to not only parent my new child, but also to parent my inner child.